Disappointed by the gender...

Question

I just found out today that we are having a boy. I've always pictured myself with a girl, I thought I was pregnant with a girl, when I referred to a specific gender it was a girl. Im disappointed that it's a boy and because im disappointed I feel bad that I feel disappointed. I know its going to be great but I can't help but feel sad. Am I wrong in this? I know we are going to try again at some point but im already almost 35 and I don't know how to spin this in my head. 

Answer 1

How many kids/ boys u have ?

Comments

This is my first child

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Dont be disappointed hun u been blessed with a special little man to come into your life, u can always have another baby after this little boy if all well. Take it from me I've had two still births before this pregnancy any gender baby is a blessing sweet heart love the precious little gift u have been given. Everyone had preferences to a sex they'd prefer but either way your baby will fill your life with love and happiness.

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Thank you. I know its going to be great. I know that. Its just hard. thank you.

Answer 2

Be happy god gave you a child at all, if you were trying for 10 years you wouldnt care for the gender. Count your blessings

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Actually we were trying for 4 and a half years, but thanks for your concern

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I'm expecting my second child. I already have a son. Was hoping this would be a girl but God knows best. In fact, I found myself doing the exact things you were doing but I prayed because I was overly anxious. And weeks before the anomaly test, I felt some peace within my heart. I'll tell you what my gynea said. He said, " God knows you can handle 2 boys. Reason he's given you 2 boys".
God knows what's best for you reason he's given you a boy. You wait and see, he'll fill your life with so much sunshine. Enjoy your baby now and when he's born. All the best

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.. I have pcos  and I had tried to conceive for years to 15 in total.. then at 35 I decided to not torture myself over the fact that I wasn't able to conceive... I will be turning 40 in June..  and I am 17 wks pregnant..  big shock.. I told my dr not to tell me the gender bc I wanted to be surprised.. I want the fullest experience I can have.. i am also going to see if I can have a home  birth.. take every feeling and memory  from this for myself .. I have also decided to ask about getting my tunes tied sometime after the birth..  I don't want to be surprised at 45!.. the bond between  a mother and son is an amazing one..  when u see him. For the first time.. all that will go away and you will be over joked..  besides if yiur like me you already love them unconditionally.. and we never know what the future holds..

Answer 3

It's okay to have feelings no matter what they are.  Allow yourself to feel that sadness, then go out and buy some adorable boys clothes, trust me they are so cute! It will probably make you feel a bit better.  And know that boys are sweet and so super special. I have a son who is 13 now and he makes me laugh every day and is one of the most generous and kind people I know. He would give the shirt off his back. One year, he kept giving away all his Halloween candy to other kids passing by.   Trust me, when he is here all of that disappointment will melt away and you will be amazed at how much you fall in love with him.  

Answer 4

Hey girl! I have ovarian problems and have had ovarian surgery due to them and at 26 yo. I was told bc of all the scarring I would never be able to have kids...At 27 yo. I got pregnant with the love of my life and BEST friend I could have EVER asked for...my son! He is now 7 and given me meaning to my life and made me who I am. He is not only the love of my life and BEST friend, but he is my BIGGEST fan and protector!  I have been trying for the past 5 years to get pregnant and just as my fiance and I were undergoing testing for IVF God blessed us and on my 36th birthday (10/19/2020), I got pregnant with my 2nd miracle! We swore up and down it was a girl and even called her by her name....at my 10 week blood testing and genetic tests we found out that it's ANOTHER baby boy. At 1st I felt a little sadness and was down bc I was wrong, but a few mins later I started to cry bc after trying for so0o0 long I could care less what my miracle is....I just want a happy and healthy baby and so far, I have been blessed with just that! He is growing so good and I have talks with him all the time while he's hiccups and kicking and he follows my hands around when I place them on my belly. God sent you a baby boy to take over your heart and ABSOLUTELY change your world and life for the BEST and to be your little right hand man and BIGGEST fan and protector EVERRRR! I honestly can't even imagine even having a girl now bc my 2 boys are my WORLD! God KNEW they're what I NEEDED in life and I am so blessed to be their Mommy. I hope this can help you even in the slightest bit. Good luck to you and your precious, sweet boy!

Answer 5

Its normal! I was convinced this was a girl too. Scan showed boy and I didn't know how to feel. We lost a baby boy last year and I think a girl would have been easier as it was the opposite sex but now I think that I'm being given back what was taken from me. I found when I bought some cute little clothes and bits it helped me a lot.