It is common for first-time mothers to feel anxious when their baby doesn't start kicking by 20 weeks. However, every pregnancy is different, and it's important to remember that fetal movement patterns can vary. There are several reasons why your baby may not be kicking as much as you expected. Firstly, the position of the placenta can affect how strongly you feel your baby's movements. If the placenta is located on the front wall of your uterus (anterior placenta), it acts as a cushion and may dampen the sensations of movement. Additionally, factors such as maternal weight, body shape, and muscle tone can also influence how easily you perceive your baby's kicks. Furthermore, if you have been busy or active during the day, your movements may have lulled your baby to sleep. However, if you are still concerned about the lack of movement after trying relaxation techniques or drinking something cold and sweet to stimulate activity, it is always best to contact your healthcare provider for reassurance and guidance. They may recommend further monitoring or an ultrasound scan to ensure everything is progressing well with your pregnancy. Remember that each pregnancy is unique, so try not to compare yourself too much with others' experiences and trust in the expertise of your healthcare team.